For Texas parents who divorce, the impact on their shared children is one of their greatest concerns. It can be difficult to predict how kids will react to a shift in their family structure, and many parents fear that there could be difficulty accepting the changes ahead. The following insight is based on interviews with individuals who went through a divorce and child custody process while they were still children. The results might be surprising to parents who are concerned about their own children, and could bring a measure of relief.
In many cases, the end of their parents' marriage can bring positive outcomes. For example, many kids will take on more responsibilities at home after their family is divided. These kids may become more self-reliant and independent as they learn to assist their custodial parent. Some accept a more involved role with siblings, providing support and comfort as the entire family adjusts to their changed living arrangements.
Another way that children of divorce can benefit is by leaving behind the stress of living within an unhappy household. Kids are often aware that their parents are not getting along, and the tension of living in a strained and tense environment can have serious detrimental effects on the happiness and well-being of a child. Once the marriage has ended and both parents settle into their new living arrangements, the result is often a mother and father who are both happier and better able to focus on their children.
There is no doubt that the changes associated with divorce and child custody can be difficult for children to adjust to. There may be many bumps in the road as a Texas family moves from one household into two. The effects on children, however, are not all negative. There are plenty of positive associated with an altered family structure, and parents should remember that each child is unique, and will have his or her own individual reaction to the changes ahead.
Source: The Huffington Post, "7 Ways Divorce Affects Kids, According To The Kids Themselves", Brittany Wong, Aug. 28, 2014